Scorpios are actually very defensive, but this defense is more limited to those close to them. Scorpios are not very wary of strangers. Scorpios are quite easy to share some private things and true feelings with strangers. For example, on a whim, they suddenly talk about their original family to a stranger online, or suddenly talk about their hurtful love history to a friend they don’t know well.
Scorpios say these things not out of trust, but simply to release their desire to talk. Before opening their mouths every time, Scorpios will first confirm that the other person is a complete stranger who has nothing to do with them, in the past, present and future.
Precisely because there is no connection, Scorpio can be more at ease. Strangers do not know Scorpio’s weaknesses, nor do they have any leverage over Scorpio, which can make Scorpio feel more at ease and tell the truth.
In contrast, Scorpios are easily at a loss of where to start when facing those close to them, fearing that the other party will have some unexpected reactions if they speak out, fearing that others will take advantage of them after revealing their weaknesses, and fearing that their weaknesses will be spread. This is because Scorpios are afraid of all the unfathomable evil in human nature, and because Scorpios know the pain of being betrayed.
But once it comes to long-term friendships and intimate relationships, Scorpio’s defenses will grow exponentially. Too much defense not only prevents them from building closer relationships with people around them, but sometimes even prompts them to make some unreasonable attempts. Whether it is friendship or love, Scorpios are very preconceived when they are emotional. They seem passive, but Scorpios only believe in the results obtained by their own active attempts.
They don’t like to slowly build up the foundation of a relationship through time and the increase of common interests like their opposite sign Taurus. The love that comes is too easy to get what you want, and the friendship that comes may just be the pity of others, and the other party may not be really reliable. Only by taking the initiative to spy on the truth can you find it.
But Scorpios are naturally not that worthy. Before a Scorpio matures, when facing people who are relatively energetic and relaxed, they are prone to feeling insecure or even jealous.
So some people often think that Scorpio is twisted: when they are very happy and fulfilled, Scorpio suddenly puts himself down, and even tries to please others unnecessarily by exhausting himself. When they are in a low point and need Scorpio to step up, they start to disappear, secretly trying to test their sincerity.
If the other party runs away at this time, Scorpio will receive the signal of “betrayal and unreliability” and leave the relationship without hesitation – but is there a possibility that Scorpio made the wrong choice when taking the initiative? It is against human nature to pry into people’s hearts at the wrong time, and even Scorpio himself may not be able to remain steadfast all the time.
Perhaps, some Scorpios who are often trapped in sadomasochistic relationships or unhealthy friendships should really think about it. Some disappointments after testing are self-inflicted. The problem itself may not be with the other person, but with their own low sense of worthiness, so when someone releases love, they will do everything possible to prevent themselves from being loved.
Don’t think like that, Scorpio, it really makes me feel bad. Your heavy defenses should be reserved for strangers, for when you are not familiar with others. Why do you have to set up so many barriers for those close to you, just to prevent the kindness that is everywhere from nourishing yourself?
