Throughout our lives, we experience many emotions—some from those who like us, some from those we like. Each experience connects like a guiding thread, ultimately leading you to the person meant for you.
Romantic experiences and marriage are sometimes two different things, or more often prove entirely unrelated. The hardships you endured in the past, the despair you once thought would never lift or inspire hope again, all seem exaggerated and laughable once you meet the right person. It turns out there exists someone who can navigate around your clumsiness, greet you gently with their feelers, and effortlessly reach your heart.
A couple of days ago, I was chatting with my friend Phoebe, who has been stuck in her current relationship for a long time—a friendship-turned-romance that defies resistance. For Phoebe, her boyfriend is the most compatible person she’s encountered after many experiences, someone with whom she shares natural chemistry and effortless joy.
But her boyfriend is a staunch non-marrier. Despite this, they fell deeply in love, and have been for many years, without much time to scrutinize the details. As an independent urban woman, Phoebe used to have some fear of marriage too. But as a water sign, she craves emotional stability and needs to see a sense of responsibility in her partner. Over time, her boyfriend has shown signs of reconsidering and even suggested serious thought about it, yet he remains hesitant to plan for the future. So Phoebe continues to wait, neither hot nor cold, holding onto her expectations.
Opening Phoebe’s birth chart reveals a picture of a rocky romantic journey. This stems from her Venus in Aquarius in the 10th house, with the Moon square Venus, indicating she has a high tolerance for emotional experiences. However, truly starting a relationship requires not only good conversation, mutual respect, and emotional and intellectual compatibility but also giving space while being obedient and non-dominant. As a result, most of her romantic experiences end with mutual unspoken agreement to cut contact.
Yet, her destined partner perfectly bypasses all these challenging aspects in her chart. In other words, not only does the other person not retreat because of these traits, but they also don’t see Phoebe’s many needs as problematic. The ruler of her 7th house, Mercury, indicates that her destined partner is a stable 4th-house type, who effortlessly handles Phoebe’s pride and need for control with ample patience and rationality. Phoebe’s current relationship is clearly one she knows has no future; it’s merely a step in refining her attitude toward love—a necessary phase.
Meeting a destined partner often brings the realization that past habits or traits that hindered emotional progress are no longer issues with this person, leading to a natural and fitting judgment. The relationship tends to click effortlessly, with the destined partner providing a sense of calm and security. Their life plans align seamlessly, regardless of age.
Love no longer feels like a struggle because the choice becomes unwavering. Even if you’re someone who struggles to trust relationships, you’ll feel the undeniable push of destiny.
Sometimes when true love arrives, it comes with loss—perhaps a vague relationship, or saying goodbye to an unfavorable situation, because it signals the start of something entirely new.
