Oftentimes, the most difficult part of a relationship is making choices, especially when you discover that the relationship between two people is no longer the same as before, you have to re-examine whether the two of you still have a future.
Qingqing has a boyfriend who she has been dating for 7 years. The two have been together since college, accompanying each other through campus and work. After 3 years of living apart, they finally settled down in the same city.
These 7 years have been very difficult for both of them, so Qingqing has always cherished this relationship. But this year, Qingqing’s boyfriend took the initiative to say that he had won an opportunity to be assigned to another city, and he was not sure whether he would come back or not, while Qingqing’s job was already very stable and there was no way to change it easily.
Therefore, for Qingqing, this relationship has reached a dilemma. She wants to give up but is unwilling to give up after so many years of waiting and dedication. She wants to continue but doesn’t know whether her sacrifice will be rewarded with a happy ending.
From the composite chart of the two people, the Saturn of the boy is in conflict with the Moon of the girl. There is actually pressure in the relationship between the two people, especially when facing practical problems, both sides find it difficult to feel the “support” of the other party, and it is more of a responsibility and tension. In addition, the Uranus and Neptune of the boy are in opposition to the Venus of the girl. It can be said that the boy brings excitement and hope to the girl, but also challenges and gaps.
Considering the characteristics of the wind element in the boy’s natal chart, it may be difficult for him to really make a long-term commitment to the girl. When facing practical problems, he is more concerned about his own needs and development. It is difficult for two people to deeply discover this kind of “practical problems” in the early stage of love and when they are in different places, but when they start talking about marriage and face trivial problems, this characteristic will be highlighted.
Although the Sun and Venus of the two people have good interaction, the development of feelings can never be maintained only by “liking” and “attraction”.
Combined with the fact that the Sun and Uranus are in opposition, and the Moon and Saturn are in conflict in the composite chart, it may be possible to maintain a romantic relationship, but it will be difficult to get married. Even if the girl compromises and sacrifices her independent space and career to cooperate, there will be a series of difficulties to overcome later. If the boy cannot truly assume the responsibility of this relationship, the girl’s sunk costs will only increase.
Therefore, instead of holding on to this person tightly, it is better to give each other space and opportunities to grow and become better versions of themselves.
Synastry will not help you decide a relationship, but it will tell you whether the relationship is suitable and worthwhile. Whether it is the development of an individual or a relationship, do not use the sunk costs of the past to judge future choices.
