We clearly love each other desperately, so why does it feel more like “going through trials” the longer we stay together? The way he delivers medicine late at night seems like true love, but the sight of him slamming the door and walking away during arguments makes you wonder if this is just karmic debt.
Our current emotional dilemmas often stem not from a lack of love, but from the inability to discern whether the person before us is the “right one” to walk through life with or a “wrong match” that starts sweet but turns bitter. In truth, that guiding light lies within your birth chart, just waiting for someone to illuminate it for you.
I once had the privilege of being Xiaoxi’s guide. At the time, she was in a relationship with an old college classmate. They had gotten along well during university, and by chance, they ended up together after graduation. Like all relationships, it started sweetly—both still carried some of the innocence from their student days and treated each other with genuine care. But as they navigated the hardships of society, their relationship deteriorated, especially when money became a topic of discussion. Her partner would easily get upset and become sarcastic, leading Xiaoxi to question whether he was truly her destined match.
In Xiaoxi’s chart, Mars resides in the 7th house, indicating that in her destined relationship, she is likely the dominant party or more prone to impatience. It’s highly unlikely for her to be completely suppressed by her partner, as was the case in this relationship. Additionally, her true match is likely very masculine, with sharp facial features and either athletic prowess or abundant energy—traits that didn’t align with her then-boyfriend. The ruler of her 7th house is in the 12th house, suggesting she and her destined partner are most likely to meet in settings related to healthcare, art, or through unconventional means (for example, Xiaoxi met her current partner at an art exhibition).
The ruler of the 7th house in Sagittarius indicates that one’s destined partner will likely have a cheerful, optimistic, and generous personality, placing more emphasis on spiritual compatibility rather than being profit-driven or prone to weighing pros and cons.
From this, it’s clear that Xiao Xi’s old classmate doesn’t resemble her destined partner. The timing of their meeting also didn’t coincide with a period when Xiao Xi was emotionally active. Perhaps some celestial bodies briefly spurred romantic developments during those few days they were together, but such feelings are often fleeting. Even if they seized that momentary opportunity to become a couple, this relationship would struggle to endure.
Countless people attempt to use love to overcome all incompatibilities, but most ultimately succumb to reality. After all, love is ever-changing, while personality and practical circumstances are the hardest things to alter. Healthy relationships don’t require astrology for confirmation, but a birth chart can help you recognize risks that your subconscious already knows but dares not confront.
