Many people have had similar experiences: the day before, they were still having a heart-to-heart talk with an earth sign, both of them telling each other their true feelings, but the next day they received a decisive breakup notice from the earth sign – “Forget it, we are not suitable” and “Let’s not talk about it anymore.”
In fact, this seemingly contradictory “cliff-like breakup” is precisely a disguised protection of the relationship by the earth sign. Their silence and avoidance often stem from the following psychological logics:
- The true face is revealed, choose to escape
Earth signs usually have a certain “self-filter” in their relationships – they hope to be reliable and worthy of love in the eyes of their partners. Therefore, when you accidentally reveal some dissatisfaction with him during deep communication, or even just objectively point out his shortcomings, they may instantly fall into self-doubt:
“So in your eyes, I am this kind of person?”
“Why are you still with me if you think I’m so awful?”
If these comments happen to hit their soft spots, they will feel ashamed and even think you are humiliating them. At this time, their first reaction is not to argue, but to remain silent and retreat, because in their opinion, this relationship has been “rotten”, and repairing it will only make each other uglier.
- Command and threat communication triggers defense mechanisms
Earth signs are strong-willed and stubborn by nature. They can accept suggestions, but cannot accept being forced to change. If your tone of voice is commanding or threatening during communication (such as “If you don’t change, we’ll break up”), they will immediately go on the defensive:
“Are you forcing me? I’d better leave first.”
“Instead of worrying every day that you’ll leave, I’d rather cut myself off.”
For them, emotions should flow naturally, not be forced. Once they perceive the “sense of control” in the relationship, their rationality will quickly take over and they will choose to cut losses in time.
- Disillusionment makes the relationship stop at a decent moment
Earth signs often have some idealistic expectations in relationships. They hope that each other is tacit and harmonious, and even have some “perfectionism” tendencies. But when deep communication reveals each other’s dark side and makes them realize that “you and I think differently”, they will feel a huge gap.
At this time, they will not be hysterical, nor will they try to make amends, but will calmly think:
“Since it’s already rotten, let’s stop here.”
“It is better to preserve the last bit of decency than to let the relationship continue to rot.”
Therefore, their sudden silence and breakup is essentially a form of self-protection – to prevent the relationship from sliding into a worse situation.
