Everyone says that love and marriage are two different things. While a couple may experience sweetness and ease during their relationship, once they enter married life and face the unavoidable daily necessities and trivial details of life, their dynamics can change significantly.
Linlin came to us with these very concerns. During their relationship, Linlin and her boyfriend could be described as “soulmates,” sharing very similar interests and hobbies. Both were artistic souls, always having endless topics to discuss and romantic surprises for each other. However, as they were about to start their own little home together, Linlin felt very nervous, unsure whether she could handle these trivial yet complex life issues, and whether her partner would be able to support her.
Looking at the synastry chart, there are indeed some challenging aspects between the 10th and 4th houses. The boyfriend’s Mars in the 10th house squares the girl’s Sun, indicating that the two may have different paces and attitudes toward career development. Influenced by Mars, the boyfriend is more eager to pioneer and seek new opportunities, while Linlin, a Virgo Sun, tends to prefer steady progress. Therefore, after marriage, if they encounter issues in their respective developments, some arguments and stress may arise.
Additionally, considering the state of the 4th house in the composite chart and the boyfriend’s natal 4th house, the Moon, Venus, and Mercury in conflict suggest that female elders on the boyfriend’s side are likely to become involved in their lives. This could manifest as expressing opinions or having ideological clashes, which may not necessarily lead to major conflicts or disputes but could still create disagreements between the couple, even leading to emotional resentment or misunderstandings.
Fortunately, in the synastry chart, the Sun has favorable interactions with Venus and the Moon. Additionally, in the boyfriend’s natal chart, Saturn is positioned in the 7th house and forms a positive aspect with the Moon, indicating that the man is capable of taking responsibility in marriage and won’t leave the woman to face pressure alone. Moreover, throughout their long-term relationship, they can provide each other with understanding and support. Even if conflicts arise, they will ultimately face and overcome challenges together through the ups and downs.
While married life will naturally differ from dating, no marriage is perfect—there will always be issues, whether they stem from real-life conflicts or personality clashes between the two. Therefore, in any marriage, as long as both partners maintain good communication and calmly address their disagreements and difficulties, no problem is insurmountable.
