Compared to fleeting passion, most people actually yearn for stable relationships—of course, immature souls are the exception, and no judgment is passed; both perspectives have their merits. It’s just that, after the baptism of time, what remains stranded on the shore by the rushing river of years are only the warm pebbles.
Those fleeting, momentary sparks of awe often linger only as experiences, tucked deep in memory like a faint glimmer, serving as proof of how astonishing the length of life can be. Yet, in hindsight, such things appear so trivial and dull when contrasted against the grandeur of time.
In truth, these words are especially meant for those with Moon-Venus in Aries to hear, because Moon-Venus in Aries often requires far more trials and tribulations than most to understand why this is so.
With the Moon in Aries, many only grasp the aggressive, passionate side of love in their youth, unaware of how to sustain and nurture emotional bonds over time—prone to charging forward and then giving up. Venus in Aries can only capture the feeling of love in brief, dazzling moments, unable to sense the temperature of water in a calm lake.
People with Moon and Venus in fire signs often misunderstand the form of emotions. Yet, it cannot be denied that their passion and creativity bring many surprises to love and much joy to their partners. But what comes after that?
Thus, they also stumble along, searching for some kind of task card that tells them what to do next, but no one ever informs them of the next target to conquer.
Humans have desires for love; the longing to love far outweighs the desire to be loved.
This isn’t just true for fire signs—it applies to almost everyone. Loving others often brings more happiness, fulfillment, and a greater sense of filling one’s inner void and completing one’s humanity than being loved does.
Actually, everyone realized this truth from the very beginning. It’s just that in today’s society, people can’t find a suitable candidate to love or a proper outlet for their affection. In short, they can’t find a target they feel safe and bold enough to pour their love into, because people nowadays are too complex, too hypocritical, and far too unpredictable. This leads many to choose to be loved first—not for the sake of ultimately being loved, but to feel secure and bold enough to love without reservation.
This is also why many people nowadays prefer keeping pets. Pets not only fulfill the psychological need for companionship but, more importantly, satisfy the desire to love recklessly. Pets can awaken one’s capacity to love—the kind of unconditional love that brings self-fulfillment. It’s the liberating joy of opening one’s heart and loving freely, coupled with the security of knowing there will be no harm. This feeling is often far more fulfilling than being loved.
The wariness between people exists because everyone understands the unpredictability of human nature, which is inherently the most unstable. Some people were terrified of cats and dogs as children but, as they grew older, realized that the temperaments of these animals are far more stable than most humans. Especially when a dog truly recognizes you as its owner, it will almost never harm you—but humans are different. People change.
If we were to frame this in terms of astrology, the fixed signs—Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius (earth, fire, water, and air)—would have the most authority to resist this notion. These four signs represent different forms of long-termism. Deep down, they crave the most stable emotions, yet paradoxically, they’ve become some of the most unstable elements in modern society. The reason is simple: their inability to trust the steadiness of emotions leaves them constantly second-guessing.
If we say that nowadays, relationships between people are essentially a blind gamble with different emotional stakes; to put it more liberally, you win if you bet right and lose if you bet wrong—no big deal. But it also means that few can experience the extremes of joy and pain, which are precisely the experiences that going all-in can bring.
The decline in happiness stems from a collective collapse of trust. To love comes at too high a cost, so we become guarded—shielding ourselves from hurt, but also from happiness.
May we all understand love, and may we all be able to love wholeheartedly.
